So, we planned to have a quick wedding. James is Australian, so there were Visa issues to work out, and we wanted to go ahead and get our together-life started. We met in February, he proposed in March, and we were to be married in July in New Braunfels, Texas on the tail end of our family's week-long reunion.
Celebrating 5 years of marriage today. I remember looking forward to this day our first year of marriage, thinking--"man, we are going to be so good five years down the line!"
James and my story is a fun one.
This is so often our life. Raff napping, while I tote my lappy to his resting spot, or I quite literally work over him on my lap! If he is in his crib, the second Raff gets to sleep, I am OFF to go and conquer all the tasks squeezed into his short nap time. Most of the time, that means house work--laundry, dishes, picking up, and the like, work-work--answering emails, doing invoices, editing, consultations, etc., and then finally home admin--making appointments, paying bills, sorting finances, (eh-hem, packaging returns, ha!) and all those other little tasks that get put off for far too long because they take 5 concentrated hours to accomplish. Anyone with me?
Wow! I am sure I will be saying this for the next 20 years, but it feels like just yesterday I was sitting down to write Raff's 3-month review! And here we are, past his first major holiday season, and hitting the 4-month mark. I think this past month has been the season of, whatever works. There were a lot of things that James and I had tried to avoid--given space restraints, preferences, etc. But when it comes to having a happy baby, you just do what you need to do. So this month has held a lot of changes in routine, process, and tools.
WE'VE MADE IT 3 MONTHS! Well, that was last week, actually. But it took me a week to actually take some photos and joy some notes down. I started journaling his 3-month update in his baby journal and was taking photos to add to the book, and decided I would also share here!
And it is true what that say! In some ways, the time has completely FLOWN by, but in others, it seems like a lifetime--like I can hardly remember what life was like before he came. Days become years and the weeks are seconds.
Goodness. I wish I could jump back in time and redo my friend-ing to all of my friends that had babies before me. I am sure I would do it so much better! But you don't know what you don't know, eh? So--to all of my babyless friends that feel completely unaware--the ME just a few short months ago--if you don't know what to do for the new mama in your life, or if you aren't actually totally stoked to go hold a newborn (which is TOTALLY OKAY, btw)--you are in LUCK. Here is a list that involves absolutely no purchasing (we likely have plenty of swaddles, books, and stuffed animals already) and no awkwardly holding a baby you aren't quite sure about if it just isn't your thing. And if you are one that does LOVE babies and can't wait to hold the new little squidge, check off a thing or two from the list below, and you will have earned your time with the newbie.
When we learned we were pregnant, I literally had no clue what to do next. I quickly came to understand that one of my first tasks as a newly pregnant lady would be to choose a care provider. This would be the first time I was introduced to the two main models of care related to birth: the medical model and the midwife model. I had certainly perceived differences from other people's birth stories, but I had no idea they were actually recognized models of care that affected every aspect of prenatal and labour care.
Floodtide: A birth story
Rafferty Charles Costello, Born: Sunday, August 27, 2017 @ 6:39 am // 8lb 8 oz and 21”
EARLY LABOR: These aren’t baby-making contractions
The story is so different looking back on it than living through it. I think I will know so much better next time, but this time was perfect anyhow.